Fantasia & Alicia-How Much to Blame is the MAN?????

In the past few months, there have been two high-profile situations where two of my favorite artists have been labeled a "home-wrecker":


Alicia Keys' pregnancy and subsequent marriage to recently-divorced producer Swizz Beatz and Fantasia for her affair with married Antoine Cook.

I agree that both women have to take some responsibility in their actions, but there are parties that seem to not be receiving criticism:
Antonie Cook and Swizz Beatz.

I began to question why the media and general public were judging Alicia and Fantasia so critically, when there are two MEN who are equally responsible for these so-called indiscretions. Even though Swizz Beatz was headed towards divorce, the fact is that he was STILL married when he began dating Alicia Keys. Same thing can be said about Antoine Cook, who was clearly haveing an affair while still married.  

In the Alicia Keys situation, I just see her actions as those of a woman in love. Apparently the marriage between Swizz Beatz and wife Mashonda was ending, so falling in love with him was not as much of a "home-wrecker" situation to me.

 You can't help who you fall in love with and I do give the couple credit for waiting until the divorce was final before making appearances and announcing their engagement, and the fact that they are expecting a child is irrelevant because we all know that it takes TWO.

Now as for Fantasia, I am becoming MORE and more on her side after all of the details came out about her affair. First of all, WHERE is Antoine Cook's RESPONSIBLITY????? Was he not the cheating HUSBAND who was stepping out on his wife and telling Fantasia everything that she wanted to hear?

I have heard Fantasia be called all kinds of "home-wrecker" who ruined the marriage of Paula and Antoine Cook. I think that this is ONLY because she is a celebrity because if I was Paula Cook, I would be just as upset with my husband who AFTER ALL was cheating and according to Fantasia, telling her that he didn't want to be married to me anymore.

One thing that I take away from this is that even if you are a celebrity, you can't help who you fall in love with. However, it is up to you to figure out what the best situation is for you to be in.